Yokoi Kenji is a Colombian-born lecturer whose father is a Japanese engineer and his mother is a former Colombian diplomatic official. Due to the work of his parents, he grew up between Colombia, Panama, Costa Rica, and Japan, beginning his conferences in 2010, managing to reach a young audience and penetrating with the peculiar way of his approach to the world, for which he has been invited to give his lectures in various countries in Asia, Europe and America. In this article, we are going to share some of the tips given in his lecture and that he recommends to control your temper.
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Acknowledge the mistake
Kenji explains the behaviors that must be had and become habits to achieve a fuller life through teachings, being the first step, in the face of any misunderstanding, learning to control impulses and not being carried away by these emotions, reacting instinctively, but assuming the situation that is presented, not make excuses but rather assume weaknesses and understand that by apologizing you are not losing authority.
Learn to dialogue
Before any discussion, once we understand the reality of the situation, it is necessary to learn to dialogue in order to reach an agreement that benefits the parties involved. For this, it is necessary to promote negotiation and have the freedom to say things at the right time, it is not about falling into fruitless conversations but establishing true communication.
Character is not temperament
It is often thought that having a strong character is being in a bad mood all the time, yelling, and being a despot, however, this is having a weak character that does not control your temperament. Developing character is really showing yourself as you are, accepting things, with our lights and shadows, so that you can control your temper in order to force your character.
Acceptance of situations
People tend to grow in denial, avoiding accepting mistakes made out of fear of repression, punishment, when it is necessary to learn to face and assume our mistakes, not as an act of submission, or because of being helpless, but as respect for the other and for ourselves. By not being afraid of the mistakes we have made, we have the opportunity to be free and show ourselves really who we are.
Happiness in the details
Many times life is spent waiting for a conclusion, be it a stage, a cycle, a closure, and we do not notice those small details that fill us with happiness and make life worth whatever situation we go through. Regardless of politics, finances, weather, there are small situations that fill us with greatness and we must know how to appreciate them before the inevitable death arrives since this is not what matters, but rather enjoying the day-to-day of these moments. You may also be interested in our article titled 4 lessons from Yokoi Kenji on cleanliness and prosperity.
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